Do you ever struggle with overwhelm, self sabotage and procrastination? Do you ever feel like you are hitting the mental brick wall that stops you from taking action on a project, towards your goals? Do you try to tough it out and just make yourself do it but don’t always succeed?

This is extremely common for Entrepreneurs and it costs you money (not to mention all the wasted emotional energy you spend that could have been better used in putting your plans into action.) Timing is critical in business and getting our mindset to support us is a far greater challenge in business than outsmarting our competitors.

In fact, if you simply focused on programming your mind for success so it supports you in achieving what you want in your business, you will be far more successful than any of your competitors.

Many of you know that I dedicated the last three years to working with entrepreneurs on breaking through their limiting beliefs, self sabotaging patterns and fears. Often the reason those entrepreneurs came to me was that they procrastinated on something they knew they needed to do to achieve their goals. And I helped them get the breakthroughs they needed. Now I want to share with you how you can create these breakthroughs yourself.

So what’s the secret?

The secret is you need to change How you think, so WHAT you think can change.

Einstein once said, A problem can’t be changed when you think the same way you thought when you created it. You’ve got to uplevel your thinking so you can create a solution. You’ve got to change HOW you think and the solution will come. That’s the key.

And that’s where Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) comes in. This is the tool I use to help people change the way they think. And often the solution just presents itself then, just like magic.

I will show you five different ways you can uplevel your thinking in this series.

Here is the first one:

1. Change your Emotional State

Have you ever had the experience of having a problem that seemed so big that it was literally bogging you down you just couldn’t see a way out?
And then you decided to take a walk, or you slept over it and then later in the shower while relaxing suddenly you had the answer to your problem and it all seemed really clear?

This works because when you change your emotional state, your thoughts change. It’s the easiest way to uplevel your thinking.

The results are even better when you change your state to one of complete confidence. Have you ever noticed then when you feel completely confident, problems seem a lot smaller? They are still problems but they have a different proportion and it’s much easier to solve them.

What this one example shows you already is this: It’s not the actual problem that is the issue and determines your response, it’s your perception of the problem.
Change your perception and the answer to your problem always presents itself. You will have a way forward – a breakthrough – a shift that let’s you take action.

In my years of practice I have come to know the common patterns that keep entrepreneurs stuck. And I have used the 5 Ways to create breakthroughs over and over again.

Curious to learn more?
I will take you through life exercises to show you the 5 different ways that you can take charge of your mind and make it your champion and supporter in reaching your goals rather than holding you back.

You can enrol in this free one time only Teleclass here at http://www.clientprosperity.com/teleseminar02.html

Join us for 75min full of value and action. Hope you see you on the call!

Love and Prosperity
Yvonne

Have you ever been in one of these dilemmas:

- You had agreed to participate in a certain project and then you changed your mind/your circumstances changed and you want to pull out
- a client asks you for something extra on a project that you hadn’t budgeted for and you feel it is unreasonable but don’t want to put them off
- a friend empahtically and really nicely asks you to go out with them but you just don’t feel like it?

And then you ponder it in your head, should I do it or shouldn’t I do it….? and If I was to say ‘No’ or “I changed my mind’ how will they take it and more importantly how will I feel when seeing their disappointed face? Will my benefit be worth the guilt trip I will be on for a while after saying ‘No”?

I know what it’s like, I’ve been there.

Until I understood that it was my mindset that was causing this whole dilemma, meaning I could change it.

Let me ask you this: If your kid’s or partner’s or your own life depended on it, would you be able to say “no” to the person?
Of course you could. Which tells me one thing:

Feeling guilty about saying it, or not saying it at all, means in your mind the other person’s outcome is more important than yours. And that is just not true!

Read this: You getting your outcome is the most important thing!

And before you protest, let me clarify this statement: Sometimes, saying ‘yes’ to someone and going the extra mile is the outcome you want because there is a long term payoff (eg throwing in an extra benefit for a client with whom you want to build a long term relationship). That means you do get your outcome in the end, so you both win!

However, there has to be a strong enough win for you at the end. And please don’t use this way of reasoning to talk yourself into something you don’t want to do.

Way too many people in business and in their personal life, think they are being so good by constantly looking out for others and putting their own needs last. And then they start to feel resentment, exhaustion, depression and burnout. I see it all the time in my coaching practice. These people feel selfless when they do it, not realising that without them receiving something in return so the scales even out, they will burn out. Because on an unconsicious level there always has to be an exchange, you need to get something back, otherwise you can’t sustain yourself in the long term. On an unconsious level we always expect there to be a return even if we don’t like to admit it consciously.

So you might as well be honest with yourself about it upfront. Remember if you don’t eat and drink to become strong yourself you won’t have the strength to help others who need help to feed themselves. It’s the same here, giving too much in the short term will only mean you can’t sustain what you do in the long term because you will burn out.

How do you know then, when to say ‘no’ and when to say ‘yes’?

Your Business Mindset Breakthrough Assignment

Next time you face a dilemma like this ask yourself:

1. What do I get out of saying ‘yes’ to this request?
2. Do I value that outcome highly enough, in other words is my return (emotionally or financially) higher than my investment here?
3. Does my gut feeling say ‘yes’ or ‘no’?
4. Listen to your gut feeling as it is always honest, while you might be kidding yourself by talking up your benefits if you are afraid of the other person’s reaction to your ‘no’
5. If you still feel you should say yes, ask yourself “who says you should?” usually it’s an old piece of programming from our parents that says we should and it most likely doesn’t apply to you anymore!

Watch out for my next post where I will give you some language tools to say ‘no’ in a graceful and elegant way, so relationships are maintained while you get what you want!

Until then,
Value yourself, because you are worth it,

Yvonne

What are you telling yourself about who you are, what you are capable of and what you deserve?

Negative self talk often starts as a suggestion we hear a lot from people around us when we grow up. Yes, you have guessed it parents have a major influence on how we think and how confident we become as adults.

I wanted to tell you about two friends of mine who had very different upbringings and how that is reflected in their self image.
Check it out in this short video

Isn’t it amazing how our thoughts become self fulfilling prophecies? My friend Berta (not her real name) has a fantastic ‘can do’ attitude and seems to attract people to help her be successful very easily.

Thankfully NLP gives us the tools to change our self image any way we want. So anyone can build strong self confidence.

Your Business Mindset Breakthrough Assignment:

1. Listen to your self talk, what are the good and the not so good things you tell yourself?
2. Think about where those statements come from, who said that to you?
3. Are those statements really true for you today? What were they based on in the past? Find evidence for the opposite: eg. if you tell yourself: I am not good at making people laugh, think of examples where you did make people laugh!

If you need to boost your self confidence and want to do that easily and effectively I urge you to learn how to use NLP!

My NLP Practitioner Training starts on the 21sth may this year.  Contact me on 0401910 675 if you want to find out more.

What you can expect from this blog:

• Have you every wanted to know how to avoid the anxiety and stress that goes with not feeling ‘good enough‘ to do something?
• Would you like to find out what the mindset is of people who are highly productive and DON’T procrastinate?
• Are you interested to know how to maintain your drive and focus when in business for yourself?
• Ever wanted to outsell your competition and have your prospect pipeline overflowingly full?

These are just some examples of areas where what we think creates a certain result for us in business. I am specifically looking at the best mindset strategies to master these and other challenges, how we come to think in a way that is holding us back and how we can breakthrough our limiting beliefs to think in a  more useful and effective way.

Be prepared to have numerous business mindset breakthroughs! I will be letting you in on all the secrets I have uncovered in the last 5 years of practicing NLP and coaching business people to improve their own and their businesses performance!

There will be practical tips on how to do things as well as ways to shift your thoughts and perspectives on things.  visit often or subscribe for email alerts to new posts!

I am looking forward to interacting with you on this blog!

Here’s to your Empowerment!

Yvonne