“I work so hard, but I just don’t seem to be rewarded for it financially”
“Somehow my cashflow is always short and I don’t know why”
Sound familiar? It seems to ring true for a lot of people, a lot of them highly educated, ambitious and hardworking. Why is that?
It’s because they have beliefs about money and about themselves that are stopping them from attracting more money into their lives. And, they may not even be aware that that’s the case, because often they are consciously aware of useful beliefs they should adopt, and think they have done so. Well, see, their old limiting beliefs are unconscious. They run in the background, largely unnoticed.
Carl Jung, one of the fathers of modern psychology said: ”Until we make our unconscious thinking patterns conscious we will keep calling it destiny.”
Wow, so that really brings it home how strongly our current and future situations are linked with our beliefs.
I want to share with you what I think are the most common belief patterns that are stopping people from having more money and what behaviours they create. So you may (if money is an issue for you) recognize yourself in one or more of these patterns. For most impact answer the question post under the Belief that most resonates with you. Of course if you want to clear these patterns on an unconscious level quickly and lastingly, I recommend you use NLP techniques, they will do it.
Let’s have a look:
1. Money is bad, people who have money are greedy and rip others off
A lot of people were brought up with this limiting belief. People who have this belief often shy away from taking up opportunities that could make them more money. This belief often goes hand in hand with the idea that one has to work hard for money. And if they don’t and still make money than there has to be something dodgy going on. These people often don’t make as much as they would like to and when they do, it runs through their fingers.
The truth is money can’t be bad or evil, only people can. It’s what people decide to do to get money or do with money that can be bad. Money itself JUST IS. Therefore it is just as possible to be a good person as it is to be a bad person and have money. You can decide, and rather than judge people by their money it’s more useful to judge them by their behaviour.
Breakthrough Assignment: If this is you, you may want to think of the way your parents and other significant people in your environment viewed and still view money and how that influenced you.
2. Money is not important
People who say this often believe that asking for money in return for a service is selfish. These are people who give lots of stuff away for free. They are extremely busy and constantly short of cashflow. Often they are cronically undercharging for what they create and provide.
If this is you, be aware that whenever you are not taking money (or not enough) for what you provide, you are sending a message to yourself about what YOU are worth. If you don’t expect a return for what you offer, then you are not valuing what you provide and create (aside from the fact that you will not be in business for too much longer or will never get that pay rise you deserve). Often people with this mindset are doing amazing things that add enormous value and instead of being valued they attract people who take advantage of them, even rip them off or use them as the doormat.
Breakthrough Assignment: You may look at what events and beliefs have impacted your self confidence and self worth in this way. They may have nothing to do with money.
3. I am not good enough to ask for more
This is maybe the most common one. Instead of not expecting a return for their efforts, people with this pattern actually don’t think they deserve to get more even if they wanted to. They feel that if they asked for more, they would be judged with more scrutiny, the people they serve may get more demanding and may not appreciate what they do as much. They believe they score extra points for providing something so valuable for so little money.
Unfortunately that’s not how it works. On the contrary: Most people don’t truly appreciate the value of something if it is underpriced. That includes an employee asking for too small a salary. For most people it’s Expense = Value.
Many people are afraid of being rejected if they ask for ‘too much’. These are the good girls and good boys and the people pleasers amongst us.
Apart from not putting money into your pocket this “I’m not good enough mindset’ leads to resentment and ultimately to burnout. People with this mindset generally work way too hard for the rewards they are reaping.
Breakthrough Assignment: You may want to observe your own buying patterns. How do you make a judgment on others’ prices. And become observant of the self talk that goes on when you reduce your fee for that ‘special’ client or because you really want that ‘special’ job.
Ask yourself, what are your beliefs around what it means to be rejected? (sometimes it’s as drastic as “I won’t be loved” and “I will die”). Notice whether they are realistic.
All limiting beliefs above can be cleared quickly and highly effectively with NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming). You can learn these techniques and reprogram yourself to really step into your personal power. Check out our NLP Practitioner Training program starting 21st May.
Here is to your Empowerment,
Yvonne
P.S. Let me know which one resonates with you. I’d love to read how you are going with addressing your beliefs!
