I feel so fortunate to have chosen a mentor who fits me so well for where I am now! I thought it was timely to talk about making decisions and how to choose the right people to come into your life. Because this is absolutely critical for your success. You have probably heard that your life is a reflection of the five people you spend most of your time with. So choosing those peope is VERY important.

Have you ever felt like you made the wrong choice in employees, mentors, clients or even a your partner?

Have you ever
- been disappointed by a mentor who you felt didn’t deliver what you wanted?
- attracted a business partner/supplier and then felt ‘ripped off’?
- attracted an employee that didn’t work out as expected?
- had a partner that caused you heartache because you just weren’t a good fit for each other?

Most people would have experienced at least one of these scenarios, I know I have. So how does this happen and how can we prevent it?

There are two main reasons we make the wrong decision about people:

1. We don’t have enough criteria for making the decision and the ones we have are not specific enough

2. We put up the wrong criteria down because our self image keeps us thinking too small of ourselves and our possibilities.

Let’s deal with Obstacle No 1: How can you make a good decision if you don’t have enough criteria? How many are enough?
Take a piece of paper, think of a decision (for a client, partner, mentor, etc.) you have made recently and write down your criteria for making that decision. How many did you come up with, 5 or 6? If you came up with 10 you are better than average. Now you want to double that at least! Yes that’s right, I am serious you need at least 20 criteria. If you are looking for a partner, you want to have even more than that, at least fill an entire A4 page.

What will the criteria be?
First and foremost think of how you want the relationship to be with the person. Most people don’t do this and only focus on characteristics of the person. Big mistake! The relationship with you is what counts the most (eg. for a client: treats me with respect, shows up on time, raves about me to others…) that’s what will ultimately determine your success or otherwise.

A lot of people feel that this approach limits them in their choice and that’s just not true. If you don’t know what you want, anyone or noone is right. If you are clear about it your eyes will open to the specific people that truly would be a good match. It’s kind of like when you decide to buy a blue Toyota Corolla hatchback and then you see them everywhere on on the street. They were always there but you just didn’t see them before.

Be as specific as possible: What do you see, hear, feel that tells you the relationship is ideal?
Be positive in your description: EG. don’t say “he’s not lazy” say “He’s proactive in suggesting improvements”.
Remember the basics: If you want a male partner, make sure you put ‘male’ on your list!

Now to Obstacle No 2:

What is your self image? How confident are you of your own abilities? For Example: If you want a mentor for yourself and you feel intimidated by the idea of sharing your ideas with them you may attract someone who is too directive, takes over or simply underdelivers to your expectations. It is important that you see yourself as an equal, that you are clear what you want to get out of the relationship and how you need to behave in order to get that result.

Ask yourself: What are my beliefs around this relationship?

Here is my example for attracting the right mentor: I believe that
- my mentor is a resource available for me and my responsibility for using to my advantage.
- the investment I make into my mentor has to repay itself quickly and I need to reach a set Return on investment within a year from the relationship.
- I am an equal to my mentor, they simply have more skills and experience in an area I want to grow into
- It is my right and responsibility to speak up when something about the relationship isn’t working.

These beliefs keep me empowered and help me to make the most of the mentor relationship.

So can you see the benefit in this approach?

It’s your turn now:

Business Mindset Breakthrough Assignment:

1. Think of a person you want to attract into your life (can be a partner, mentor, employee or client).
2. Make a list of all the criteria they need to fulfill, be sure to write a minimum of 20 specific ones
3. Check your beliefs around the relationship you want to have with them. Are they keeping you powerful? If not, what do you need to believe instead to empower yourself?

Watch out, amazing things happen when you do this, the ideal people come out of the woodworks, maybe tomorrow maybe in a couple of weeks, you’ll see.

I would love to know how you went with this process and what it did for you, so please leave me a comment here on my blog.

To your Empowerment,
Yvonne

Meeting Kendall, my Million Dollar Mentor in Tucson Arizona!

I had an amazing time at the Money, Marketing and Soul Coach Certification training in Tucson Arizona. As you can see, I am evolving and my business is evolving with me. I had been searching for a long time for a way to combine my business expertise with my NLP and Coaching skills and I have finally found it. I now have the tools to not only transform my own business but to help other coaches, consultants, natural therapists and other solopreneurs to transform theirs .

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